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Is this the new norm? Should I ignore these posts? Should I join in the fray? Should I make judicious cuts to my list of Facebook friends? In short, in this time of Internet manners, what’s a properly brought-up lady to do?
GENTLE READER: It is still in poor taste. But perhaps you have noticed that there is quite a lot of poor taste material on the Internet, which people post about themselves and others.
They have become their own paparazzi. Everybody can know what just about everyone else is doing pretty much all the time. Among other things one doesn’t need to know, this reveals the fact that everyone is not invited to everything.
A proper lady does not accept a new “norm” that is basically inconsiderate of others just because it has become common. But Miss Manners would also expect her to pity people who don’t know the right way to thank their hosts or to share their activities, and ignore what should not have been intended for her eyes.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I ran into a high school friend last year who contacted me, four months later, about a part-time position in his marketing company. I’ve been with the company nine months now, and I’m unhappy with the feedback I receive. This is very negative to me, and I’m not seeing results of my hard work.
My manager tells me it’s due to the economy and not to take it personally. However, for the past three or four months I’ve had sleepless nights, have come down with a cold several times and am generally just not motivated to go there in the morning. I have all the signs that I’m not happy with my job and it’s time to move on.
The hard part is, how do I gently tell my manager that it’s not working out for me, that the job is not a good match for me? After all, he did offer me a position after not being in contact with me for 20 years.
GENTLE READER: And very nice of him it was, which you must acknowledge. But that does not make you his indentured servant.
What you should tell him is how grateful you were to get the job, how much you have learned and how impressed you are with his company. Then, just when he thinks you are about to hit him for a raise, you say: “But it’s time for me to move on. I’m so glad I had this experience, and I can’t thank you enough for hiring me.”
Miss Manners warns you that considering the bad feedback, this time he may not try to talk you out of leaving. By withholding your dissatisfaction, you don’t make your friend feel bad for doing you a good turn.
Visit Miss Manners at her Web site, www.missmanners.com, where you can send her your questions.
2012, by Judith Martin
Distributed by Universal Uclick for UFS
Article source: http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/miss-manners-facebook-postings-often-tell-us-what-we-neednt-know/2012/03/30/gIQAr3qsHT_story.html
Is this the new norm? Should I ignore these posts? Should I join in the fray? Should I make judicious cuts to my list of Facebook friends? In short, in this time of Internet manners, what’s a properly brought-up lady to do?
GENTLE READER: It is still in poor taste. But perhaps you have noticed that there is quite a lot of poor taste material on the Internet, which people post about themselves and others.
They have become their own paparazzi. Everybody can know what just about everyone else is doing pretty much all the time. Among other things one doesn’t need to know, this reveals the fact that everyone is not invited to everything.
A proper lady does not accept a new “norm” that is basically inconsiderate of others just because it has become common. But Miss Manners would also expect her to pity people who don’t know the right way to thank their hosts or to share their activities, and ignore what should not have been intended for her eyes.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I ran into a high school friend last year who contacted me, four months later, about a part-time position in his marketing company. I’ve been with the company nine months now, and I’m unhappy with the feedback I receive. This is very negative to me, and I’m not seeing results of my hard work.
My manager tells me it’s due to the economy and not to take it personally. However, for the past three or four months I’ve had sleepless nights, have come down with a cold several times and am generally just not motivated to go there in the morning. I have all the signs that I’m not happy with my job and it’s time to move on.
The hard part is, how do I gently tell my manager that it’s not working out for me, that the job is not a good match for me? After all, he did offer me a position after not being in contact with me for 20 years.
GENTLE READER: And very nice of him it was, which you must acknowledge. But that does not make you his indentured servant.
What you should tell him is how grateful you were to get the job, how much you have learned and how impressed you are with his company. Then, just when he thinks you are about to hit him for a raise, you say: “But it’s time for me to move on. I’m so glad I had this experience, and I can’t thank you enough for hiring me.”
Miss Manners warns you that considering the bad feedback, this time he may not try to talk you out of leaving. By withholding your dissatisfaction, you don’t make your friend feel bad for doing you a good turn.
Visit Miss Manners at her Web site, www.missmanners.com, where you can send her your questions.
2012, by Judith Martin
Distributed by Universal Uclick for UFS
Article source: http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/miss-manners-facebook-postings-often-tell-us-what-we-neednt-know/2012/03/30/gIQAr3qsHT_story.html
A Marine at Twentynine Palms is facing punishment after making an “inappropriate” reference to the Trayvon Martin case in a Twitter message, the Marine Corps said Saturday.
The Marine, a staff sergeant with 10 years in the corps, put a message on Twitter: ”Rifle range all day today. Shooting black all day like George Zimmerman.” Silhouettes on rifle range targets are painted black.
Once his command found out about the post, he deleted the post, erased his Twitter account and took down his MySpace account.
The Marine also apologized for the post when contacted by a reporter for the Marine Corps Times: “It was a distasteful comment that was said. I guess at the time I didn’t realize how one comment would affect so many people negatively, and for that I apologize to everybody.”
The Marine faces unspecified discipline by his command, a Marine spokesman said.
Marine Corps policy on the use of social media warns Marines not to post comments that reflect negatively on themselves or the Marine Corps.
–Tony Perry in San Diego
Article source: http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/2012/04/marine-in-trouble-for-twitter-comment-about-trayvon-martin-shooting.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+lanowblog+(L.A.+Now)
A Marine at Twentynine Palms is facing punishment after making an “inappropriate” reference to the Trayvon Martin case in a Twitter message, the Marine Corps said Saturday.
The Marine, a staff sergeant with 10 years in the corps, put a message on Twitter: ”Rifle range all day today. Shooting black all day like George Zimmerman.” Silhouettes on rifle range targets are painted black.
Once his command found out about the post, he deleted the post, erased his Twitter account and took down his MySpace account.
The Marine also apologized for the post when contacted by a reporter for the Marine Corps Times: “It was a distasteful comment that was said. I guess at the time I didn’t realize how one comment would affect so many people negatively, and for that I apologize to everybody.”
The Marine faces unspecified discipline by his command, a Marine spokesman said.
Marine Corps policy on the use of social media warns Marines not to post comments that reflect negatively on themselves or the Marine Corps.
–Tony Perry in San Diego
Article source: http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/2012/04/marine-in-trouble-for-twitter-comment-about-trayvon-martin-shooting.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+lanowblog+(L.A.+Now)
Pier Marco Tacca/Getty Images; Agent 47/WENN.com
Turns out, if you’re Courtney Love, Twitter is an acceptable means to settle a family fight.
Love’s been engaged in a bitter virtual feud with her daughter Frances Bean Cobain after Courtney claimed via Twitter that Kurt Cobain‘s former bandmate, Dave Grohl, “hit on” the rock-star offspring.
Lucky for Francis, Courtney’s come to her senses and took to Twitter to apologize this morning.
Good thing it takes less than 140 characters to say I’m sorry…
READ: Frances Bean Cobain Slams Courtney Love’s “Gross” Rant, Says Dave Grohl Is “Platonic” Pal
“Bean, sorry I believed the gossip,” Love tweeted early Saturday. “Mommy loves you.”
Courtney sparked the feud on Thursday when she tweeted she wanted to “shoot” Dave Grohl after hearing he hit on Kurt Cobain’s kid.
Both Frances and Grohl immediately denied the claims and Bean even insisted Twitter should “ban” her mother.
“While I’m generally silent on the affairs of my biological mother, her recent tirade has taken a gross turn,” Frances said in a statement to E! News on Thursday. “I have never been approached by Dave Grohl in more than a platonic way. I’m in a monogamous relationship and very happy.”
MORE: Feud of the Day: Courtney Love Accuses Dave Grohl of Hitting on Frances Bean
The Foo Fighter frontman echoed the same sentiment and released his own statement calling the accusations “upsetting, offensive and absolutely untrue.”
Well, now that Courtney’s said ‘I’m sorry,’ Francis can move on to her real relationship—she’s quite possibly engaged to The Rambles frontman Isaiah Silva.
In case you were wondering, there’s no @reply from Francis, thus far.
PICS: Tweet Peeks
Article source: http://www.eonline.com/news/courtney_love_apologizes_daughter/308919
Pier Marco Tacca/Getty Images; Agent 47/WENN.com
Turns out, if you’re Courtney Love, Twitter is an acceptable means to settle a family fight.
Love’s been engaged in a bitter virtual feud with her daughter Frances Bean Cobain after Courtney claimed via Twitter that Kurt Cobain‘s former bandmate, Dave Grohl, “hit on” the rock-star offspring.
Lucky for Francis, Courtney’s come to her senses and took to Twitter to apologize this morning.
Good thing it takes less than 140 characters to say I’m sorry…
READ: Frances Bean Cobain Slams Courtney Love’s “Gross” Rant, Says Dave Grohl Is “Platonic” Pal
“Bean, sorry I believed the gossip,” Love tweeted early Saturday. “Mommy loves you.”
Courtney sparked the feud on Thursday when she tweeted she wanted to “shoot” Dave Grohl after hearing he hit on Kurt Cobain’s kid.
Both Frances and Grohl immediately denied the claims and Bean even insisted Twitter should “ban” her mother.
“While I’m generally silent on the affairs of my biological mother, her recent tirade has taken a gross turn,” Frances said in a statement to E! News on Thursday. “I have never been approached by Dave Grohl in more than a platonic way. I’m in a monogamous relationship and very happy.”
MORE: Feud of the Day: Courtney Love Accuses Dave Grohl of Hitting on Frances Bean
The Foo Fighter frontman echoed the same sentiment and released his own statement calling the accusations “upsetting, offensive and absolutely untrue.”
Well, now that Courtney’s said ‘I’m sorry,’ Francis can move on to her real relationship—she’s quite possibly engaged to The Rambles frontman Isaiah Silva.
In case you were wondering, there’s no @reply from Francis, thus far.
PICS: Tweet Peeks
Article source: http://www.eonline.com/news/courtney_love_apologizes_daughter/308919
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I quickly warmed up once I gave Instagram a try this week, after Facebook announced plans to buy the free service for $1 billion.
I learned to appreciate the artistic side of photography, and I learned that Instagram is about much more than altered photos.
One way to describe Instagram is as a Facebook centered on photos. While Facebook allows you to post all sorts of things — links, quizzes, personal musings — Instagram only lets you post photos.
Specifically, these are photos on your camera phone. That means spontaneous snapshots of life, not the special events you’d bring a stand-alone camera for.
And only square shots are allowed, giving Instagram a uniform, uncluttered feel. Instagram reminds me of those Polaroid instant-camera photos from decades ago. You didn’t have to fuss over whether a horizontal or a vertical shot worked better because square was your only option.
Instagram lets you take square shots right from its iPhone app. If you’re using an Android phone or choosing a shot already stored on your device, you need to crop it.
You then have the option — emphasis on option — to alter your photo.
That’s part of Instagram’s appeal to some. So-so photos can look much better without much work.
We’re not talking about removing objects or adding things that weren’t there, as you might do with Photoshop. Rather, you can apply one of 17 Instagram “filters” to adjust lighting, color and other aspects of your shot.
For instance, you can give photos a “1977″ faded, retro feel or distort some of the colors and sharpen the contrast with “Lo-fi.” The iPhone version also lets you purposely blur portions of the photo. You see images change as you flip through the filters, and you can always go back to the original.
You can also rotate photos, which I find odd for square images. Perhaps the option would be useful if you wanted to flip around a shot that was taken while you were holding your phone upside. It’s a feature Facebook could learn from and adopt for its mobile app. I’ve avoided posting several shots to my Facebook profile from my phone because they would appear sideways.
Once the image is to your liking, you can add an optional caption and post it on any number of social networks, not just Facebook. The photos also appear on Instagram for friends and strangers to see. The iPhone version gives you more social networks to choose from and lets you email images to people as well.
In a sense, I’m the ideal Instagram user. I constantly take shots of things I find interesting, whether it’s a meal, a street sign or a pile of garbage covered with snow. Those shots typically have stayed on my phone. Instagram gives me Insta-audience.
In terms of sharing, Instagram works much like Twitter. You choose any number of individuals or brands to follow, and their photos automatically appear on your personal Instagram stream. Others can also follow you, and your photos appear on their streams.
Unlike Facebook, you typically don’t need permission to add someone to your circle. That person has an option to require permission, but most people don’t bother. Under the default privacy settings, you can also browse through other people’s photos without following them, just as they can do with yours.
Otherwise, Instagram feels like Facebook without the clutter. You’re only dealing with square images from those you follow. You can add a comment or declare that you “like” a photo.
That’s about it.
There are no ads cluttering the screen. There’s no potpourri of features such as “checking in” to a place where you just arrived.
You take a photo, you post it and you see other people’s photos.
There’s something magical about that simplicity.
I enjoyed the shots, even altered ones, from a friend’s trip to Lebanon. The photos of people’s meals made me forget my need to lose weight. Occasionally, I’d find shots of people — a self-portrait, a child, a spouse on the couch with a dog. It’s fun to peer into what your friends find interesting, even as they peer into what you stumble upon in your everyday life.
There’s also an unexpected benefit to the photos’ square dimensions. I initially thought I’d be compromising my shots by cropping them to make them fit. But those square photos come to life on Facebook in a way rectangular shots don’t.
That’s because the photos take up the full space that Facebook allows for displays. Horizontal shots only take advantage of the full width and vertical shots the full height. Square photos come out bigger on Facebook by expanding in both directions.
One more thing to note is that Instagram lives on the phone. You can’t browse or add photos from its website. For that, you’d need to link it to Facebook or another social network.
I know many Instagram veterans are grumbling about latecomers like me crashing their party.
But life isn’t as fun if we live in silos. I find pleasure in the serendipity made possible by having a diverse circle of people to follow.
Hey look, someone posted bottles of English ales on Instagram.
Article source: http://www.usatoday.com/tech/products/story/2012-04-14/instagram-app-review/54261822/1
As opposition to the new Cyber Intelligence Sharing and Protection Act begins to grow, protesters are finding themselves without the big players in their corner that they had in the fights over SOPA and PIPA.
Image via CrunchBase
Companies like Facebook, Intel and Microsoft have come under criticism for supporting the bill.
Critics of CISPA say that broad legislation could easily be manipulated into producing the same kind of draconian control over the Internet that many feared from SOPA. But supporters, like Facebook, say that the ability to share information between private and public organizations is crucial to the future of internet security.
After a wave of internet criticism, Facebook vice President of US Policy has published an open letter justifying his company’s support for CISPA. He argues that the bill isn’t going to force Facebook to do anything untoward with private data:
More than 845 million people trust Facebook with their information, and maintaining that trust is at the core of everything we do. Keeping the site secure to protect our users and their information requires a combination of technological innovations; around-the-clock coverage from our dedicated staff; and relationships within the broader security community.
A successful defense against bad actors also requires that we have timely information about cyber threats. One challenge we and other companies have had is in our ability to share information with each other about cyber attacks. When one company detects an attack, sharing information about that attack promptly with other companies can help protect those other companies and their users from being victimized by the same attack. Similarly, if the government learns of an intrusion or other attack, the more it can share about that attack with private companies (and the faster it can share the information), the better the protection for users and our systems.
What do you think – is CISPA on the up and up? Or is there something shadier hiding in Facebook’s justification?
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Article source: http://www.forbes.com/sites/davidthier/2012/04/14/facebook-respons-to-cispa-controversy/
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After setting off a small tempest by accusing Foo Fighters frontman Dave Grohl of trying to seduce her daughter, Courtney Love apologized to Frances Bean Cobain via Twitter early this morning.
“Bean, sorry I believed the gossip,” she wrote. “Mommy loves you.”
Love had taken to her private Twitter account earlier this week to accuse the former Nirvana drummer of hitting on 19-year-old Cobain and going home with her. Love said that she heard of the flirtation from her daughter’s roommate and a driver, and went on to attribute Grohl’s motivations to a sexual obsession with Cobain’s father, Kurt Cobain.
Gawker published the tweets, prompting Grohl to respond with a statement, saying ”Unfortunately Courtney is on another hateful Twitter rant. These new accusations are upsetting, offensive and absolutely untrue.”
Cobain later responded by dismissing Love’s claims and suggesting that Twitter ban her mother from the service.
Love sent out the apology through her public Twitter account.
Article source: http://www.rollingstone.com/music/news/courtney-love-apologizes-to-frances-bean-for-dave-grohl-twitter-rant-20120414
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